Inspiration & Paradox 30: Paradox Theory on Personality Traits

According to Jung and Freud, every individiual has two types of opposing personality traits, "passive" and "aggressive" traits. If our range of behavior is able to extend to both the aspects, we will have an exceptional capability and versatility. If our range of behavior extends only either of them, our behavior will have some "counter-productive tendencies" and have a "balanced deficiency" in our behaviour. Hence, these traits in actual fact can be argued as complementary rather than opposing.

Inspiration & Paradox 29: Simplicity is not at all simple

Whether it is about making a product that is simplest in terms of its user interface, or providing a service that as far as possible does not require the customer to lift his/her finger, or present an argument that is simple for anybody of any level to appreciate, or simplifying our lifestyle or our rules in living in this busy and complex world, it all takes a great feat of mustering effort, lots of energy, a serious bout of creativity, an enormous amount of resources, big deal of time and money, and much hard work in trial and error. And this is how I always like to put it -- "Simplicity is not the same as being simplistic".

Inspiration & Paradox 28: Standing is more tiring than walking.

I recently came across a fact -- standing is more tiring than walking.

This paradox leads me to think about our life -- that when we choose to move on in life, when there is progress and achievement in what we do, we find refreshment, liberation in our spirit and great purpose and meaning in our living. The effect is an energising one. However, when we stay put in one place and become complacent and all, we can only ourselves in a state of stagnation and inertness, which will bring us a sense of lethargy and idleness in everything we do.

Inspiration & Paradox 27: Contradictory Phrases

Here are some interesting paradoxical statements:

Fight For Peace.

Do Not Read This Sentence.

God, Give Me Patience Right Now!

Inspiration & Paradox 26: What is improbable is extremely probable

What is improbable is extremely probable. — Aristotle

What Aristotle is saying is that if some statement is wildly improbable, it is more improbable still that anyone should have formed it; that is, it would never have been made, unless there had been some evidence for it, and hence such evidence must be compellingly strong!

Inspiration & Paradox 25: Being Serpent and Dove at the Same Time

The bible teaches us to be wise as serpents; harmless as doves...Behold, I send you forth as sheep in the midst of wolves: be ye therefore wise as serpents, and harmless as doves ...
— Matthew 10:16
The two animals are apparently different in nature and characteristics and we are told to learn from the serpent to be watchful and and discerning in this world where dangers and wickedness strive and from the doves to be gentle and peaceable amongst people. The two attributes derived from two extreme animals seem so opposing yet so precious at the same time.

Inspiration & Paradox 24: Embracing two opposing truths at the same time can be liberating

I struggle with understanding and coming to terms with paradoxes because I have apparent difficulties coping with the complexities in life, but as I talk and think about them, I am beginning to love paradoxes more and more.
Reconciliation with life paradoxes has amazingly helped me to put things into a proper perspective and catalyze my moving forward. Being able to feel comfortable with holding two valuable truths at the same time and handle the duality of things with grace has become a very positive and powerful way of relating to contradicting issues in life for me.

Inspiration & Paradox 23: Angry but kind people

I am sure you often hear people say, “this person is short tempered but surely she/he has a good heart.”
I guess people who are short-fused and temperamental are usually intensely passionately about things and people and so generally exhibit a great depth of emotions, which are partly driving them to react to unpleasant people and situations too quickly. Hence oddly or even ironically, though they seem to have a lack of self-control, they can be rather sensitive creatures, warm, generous and kind to others.

Inspiration & Paradox 22: The Power of Thinking Without Thinking

I came across this fascinating proposition -- intuitive decisions that are made in a slice of time are often quite accurate and taking more time to gather information and come up with conclusions rarely improves the accuracy. That is, snap judgements can be more valid and valuable than carefully considered, well-thought and researched conclusions. I am sure there are many examples to counter this argument, such as "love at first sight is not enduring", "impulse buying leads to regrets", but nevertheless it is food for thought and an interesting perspective.

Inspiration & Paradox 21: Paradoxes are neither good nor bad.

Paradoxes permeate every bit of our life. There are countless of these opposing forces that we do not have to reject or accept the other, for instance, liberty is good and so is authority; outspokenness and silence; having and giving; boldness and humility; abundance and emptiness; courage and fear; familiarity and freshness, etc, etc, etc. One doesn't have to override the other; both can co-exist. Both in fact are very much entwined, each drawing out the precious, intimate truth in the other.

Inspiration & Paradox 20: We listen while asleep

WE LISTEN WHILE ASLEEP

This sounds almost too ridiculous and contradictory, isn’t it? But it’s true; our ears practise selective listening all the time, even when we are sleeping. We basically listen to what we want to hear. Our mind can focus attentively on the softest background noise of the running washing machine, the ticking of the clock, the murmuring of two persons, but can also shut off and not hear the most important point in a lecture, the most ferocious scolding, or the most irritating nagging. Just think for a moment, don’t some of us get awoken suddenly by the slightest noise in the middle of the night, whereas, others could continue to sleep like a log. Precisely - because our ears do selective hearing.

Inspiration & Paradox 19: More is Less, Less is More.

We normally think that more options in life will make us happier, but a staggering array of options can actually bewilder, flood and tire our brains, causing stress in decision-making. And in a world of abundant choices, this could be about the goods we buy, jobs we apply, places to live, things to play, etc, etc, etc. When all the time we have to contend with “Was it a really a right choice? Did I make the best choice? How can I make the best possible choice out of these?”, we are suffering from what they call “choice anxiety”. Choice then becomes debilitating rather than liberating. It becomes a burden. Hence, just enough is good enough.

Inspiration & Paradox 18: Hospitality is not crowding your guest

We all know what “hospitality” to guests is all about – expressing gestures of warmth, friendliness, care, extending help, giving attention and providing a generous reception so that the guest feels a great sense of being welcomed. Clear. However, I recently learned another definition of this term from an author. It has an almost total opposite meaning of what we normally know. “Hospitality” to him is not just about sharing. It is not entertainment. It is not crowding the guest. It allows participation and freedom in the way desired by the guest. It is about providing a private place where the guest could be still and be at peace. Hospitality is basically about creating space for the guest. I love this perspective a lot.

Inspiration & Paradox 17: Life is but a dream bubble that will eventually burst?

Dreams, as we all know and agree are important in keeping a man’s aspiration and hope high and without dreams, people stop moving forward. Great men have great dreams. Without vision, people perish, and without dreams people cannot prosper.
But interestingly, if we look into the meaning of dreams, they are but a bubble, a state of abstraction, a wild fancy, unreal imagery that can never become true.

Inspiration & Paradox 16: Christian Paradox

The paradoxes in Christianity have never failed to intrigue me. The following passage describes them so well:

"A real Christian is an odd number. He feels supreme love for One whom he has never seen; talks familiarly every day to Someone he cannot see; expects to go to heaven on the virtue of Another; empties himself in order to be filled; admits he is wrong so he cannot be declared right; goes down in order to get up; is strongest when he is weakest; richest when he is poorest and happiest when he feels the worst. He dies so he can live; forsakes in order to have; gives away so he can keep; sees the invisible; hears the inaudible; and knows that which passes knowledge." -- A. W. Tozer

Inspiration & Paradox 15: Our feelings are defined by our experience

The intensity of our human feelings – happiness, sadness, excitement, dullness, etc, etc, etc is never absolute but always relative to what we expect and have experienced in life. We will never truly know what is real peace and serenity if we have never encountered chaos and madness, we will never understand what pain and disappointment is if we have never felt fulfilment and satisfaction in our soul, we will never be able to really appreciate kindness and mercy, if we have never crossed path with cruel and mean people, we will never know how sweet and gratifying rest can be if we have never experienced real fatigue in the bones, we will never realise how precious life is if our safety has never been threatened by any sickness or danger, we will never ever know how sweet enlightenment can be if we have never lived in darkness and confusion, and the list goes on and on…I know some of you think all this sounds almost too passé, but I simply can’t miss out this plain twist of life in my blog.

Inspiration & Paradox 14: Think Positive or Prepare for the Worst?

I have a low threshold for pain, that’s what others say about me. And I have been advised to not to worry too much whenever I have to go for jabs or any tests that could subject my body to some pain. I was told to think positively and tell myself repeatedly in my mind that it was not going to be painful at all. That way, everything would turn out right, so they said. However, whenever I did that, it didn’t work, I would end up screaming in pain. And somehow, whenever I prepared myself for the worst pain and tried to imagine how bad the pain could be, it turned out to be rather bearable. And how I have rationalised it is about expectations. When you set your expectation of pain too low and do not mentally prepare yourself for the pain, the actual pain experienced could be overwhelming and become more than what you can bear, whereas if you expect too much of the pain, you would in the end feel that the pain is actually no big deal.

Inspiration & Paradox 13: Don’t we adapt to our weather over time?

A friend made an interesting remark about climates and how we in our everyday life use it as a conversational piece. What seems ironically strange to us is that people who have been living in cold countries are constantly complaining and fussing about the cold, and people who have been living in tropical countries never seem to be able to get used to the heat and are always groaning and moaning about it. Logically, don’t we adapt to weather conditions over time? Obviously not, eh?

Inspiration & Paradox 12: Live for yourself or for others?

“Live for yourself and not for others, follow what your heart tells you” I could understand this common passionate saying as deep down inside, we all need to be nurtured, refreshed and empowered. If we want to move on in life and make good progress, we have to take our minds off what people say, think or even try dictate, and just fix our eyes on our goal and ambition.
Yet each of us is not an entity or stand-alone, we can never separate our existence from our friends, family and community. Our conscience tell us that we cannot afford to be selfish and that we our lives are not our own; we are accountable to people around us, especially our loved ones. How we act and what we decide to do have an impact on the happiness and unhappiness of others. Our lives seem to be all interwoven together.
Yet another intriguing contradiction in life.

Inspiration & Paradox 11: Persevere in Prayer or Yield to God’s Sovereignty?

When I was carrying my second child, I yearned so much for a painless and natural delivery that I became so intense in my request to God. On one hand, I wanted God to see my persistence and my faithfulness in asking for it as I know "without failth, it is impossible to please God", but on the other hand, I felt I should just ask once and for all and let go so that I could show my confidence in His perfect plan and that He could do as He pleases. I must say I struggled a lot in the perspective that I should be bold and persistent in asking God to act and yet humbly trusting in His sovereignty and that His will be done.