Paradox and Inspiration 163: When You Think Too Much Praises is Harmful, Too Little Too Can Be Detrimental

I was reading this controversial article which argued that praises were bad for children, and what this guy shared in his posting to the article had me thinking for a while. As a child he was gravely deprived of compliments because his parents almost never praised him. When he saw how his friends' parents praised them and his own parents would only criticised him, he concluded that either his parents didn't really like him or he was just not good enough for them. And when others praised him, he assumed that his parents must see something which others couldn't and he constantly worried that others would eventually see the "bad him" and reject him after discovering that he was just a fraud. This guy grew up thinking he was terrible and sabotaged friendships out of fear that his real self would be found out. I never knew that the lack of praises could have such severe repercussions on a child's development. The praise culture originates in the West (and has its influence on Asians in the recent decade), while the criticism culture tends to makes more sense in the East, so, would that guy's life turn out better if he had been brought up in the Asian culture?